That’s why we need ritual, since it allows us to mark moments of change that are hard to see in the moment. No one suddenly says, “Today I’m an adult because I now know about all the responsibilities.” And yet we celebrate becoming bar or bat mitzvah. No one suddenly decides, “Today, I’m getting married because now my relationship is going to be radically different.” And yet we celebrate weddings.

Indeed, most of life is analog, where distinctions aren’t always so clear — one day bleeds into the next, which then turn into months, which turn into years. Rituals allow us to turn the analog into the digital, marking that one specific moment we want to recognize.

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